Being the "Ungay"

Its difficult being gay in itself, what's worse is being gay and not fitting in with other gay men. What is with gay men? Why cant I find a guy that a: doesnt say they love you then say lets go get a third, Most of the gay couples I know seem to take pride in how many men they can sleep with other than their partner, then clammer ohhh we're in love. what is so special? what do you save only for that special one in your life? Bills? its just roomates with benifits as far as I can see. The theirs sex. oye wheres the nice guys who keep their clothes on until they meet that guy that makes them want to take them off? I go to those gay meeting websites and browse and ads say Mr nice guy looking for mr right. then you look at the picture and you can see his teeth from his asshole. then theres the ones that think their assholes are industrial strength rubber bands and stretch them to the limit. (the makers of depends love these guys im sure) what happened to good ol love making, kissing exploring ect? I'm no prude, I've done it all, seen it all and I just dont get the extremes. Well one day hopefully I find Mr. Right, Ive had my share of Mr wrongs. he's out there somewhere